As most of you know, I recently got married! And, not surprisingly, I feel compelled to write about it.
There is something that keeps going through my head again and again and again. I know I have to share it with as many people as possible or I just won't be able to forgive myself.
It would take days and days to tell you the entire testimony of how my husband and I came to be where we are, so I'll save that for another time. Right now, I want to appeal to my unmarried readers.
If I could tell you just one thing, it will be this.
Keep yourself pure.
Again, if I tell you nothing else, if you listen to nothing else I say, listen to this one thing. Keep yourself pure.
I don't only mean physically, though that is the most important. I mean in every single sense. Keep your mind and your heart pure. Do not waste your body, soul, or spirit on someone who is not your spouse. I don't care if you believe he will be your husband someday, or if she will be your wife someday, nothing you have belongs to him/her until you say "I DO" for BETTER or WORSE, for as long as you both shall live.
My husband and I did nothing more than hug and hold hands prior to marriage (okay, and maybe a LITTLE bit of snuggling!). We were both virgins, and I am more thankful than I can express for that. It was not a requirement that I marry a virgin, but it was the desire of my heart, and I was blessed by God to have that desire granted. God does forgive, and I would forgive too, but I am thankful I didn't have to. Giving yourself to someone who is not yours will rob you of one of the most precious things you will ever experience in life, and the most precious gift you could ever give your spouse. I urge you to not only save sex for marriage, but kissing and other intimate acts as well. Pure means pure, there's no way around it. God sees what is in your mind and your heart, do not forget that. Be pleasing to Him and He will bless you.
I promise you will never ever regret your choice to remain pure, but you will surely regret your choice not to.
Even if you have messed up in the past, there is no reason to add new scars on top of the old ones. Stop. Make it right. Commit to pleasing God instead of pleasing yourself. Stand up for what you know is right, and anyone who is worthy of your heart will respect your choice and choose to do the same. Don't cheat yourself, don't cheat God. There is a reason He wants you to wait, it's not just to give Him glory, it's because He knows that it is better for YOU to wait. Everything God asks of us is because He loves US. He truly desires our greatest good. Believe His word, trust His word, and OBEY it.